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admin
22-08-2009, 01:25 PM
Today has been 1 of those days. You know the day you wake up and life sux. Everything annoys you, even the birds cherping and the sun shinning.... Well this has been me since yesturday... ready to rip somebodies head off.
I don't know why but something tells me its hormones but anyway I took my bitchiness out on a kid tonight. Now settle Ange.. I am admitting my wrong doings and feel like shit so I know I was in the wrong!! :rolleyes:
Today has been full on. We had our last Auskick this morning and as I expected, Blaines dad didnt show up to take him so it was a whirlwind to fly out the door and get there on time. Anyway we get there, forgot to take our meds so that wasnt good to start off with, anyway his Dad shows.... Im like 'what the???' I knew if I said what i wanted to say i would have mad a scene so I bit my tongue and let him go on his way. I kid you not he was there for about 2 minutes. i have no idea why he bothers.
So Blaine does his Auskick, we do the thanks speeches, blaine gets his certificate and medal and starts mucking aroung like an idiot... (what do I expect... I forgot the medicine so my fault :rolleyes:) so my patience is wearing thin. We take off to Fountain Gate to get to Medicare on time.... do all that while Blaine cant walk straight and is dancing around like a twit with ants in his dacks... Patience getting thinner :(
Back in the car to go grocery shopping. All going good apart from the balarining clown I have as a son..... do the shopping. i like to go to the self serve registers... No chit chat, bags are packed properly and Ive done it all myself (god im a control freak :cool:) well this machine keep coming up with verification.... God I was ready to explode (all this happening and no swearing :eek:) so finally get out of there, get home, unpack and put Blaine into a shower. I convince him after he takes his medicine he needs to have a rest if he wants to go to the footy tonight, suprisingly he falls straight to sleep... aghhh time for some washing and odd jobs. I go change the globes to find out they are the wrong ones. By this stage Im ready to throw my hands in the air and climb into bed until I wake up tomorrow to start again.
So time flies and its time to take of to catch a train. I wake Blaine, drive to the station, catch a train and we are off.
All going good, Ive settled a bit so we grab something to eat and head into the ground. Seats are ok (expected better for what I paid but oh well ) and we start watching. Our team lost but nothing that upsets me Im there more so for Blaine to deal with losses and wins and a varied range of emotions and how he needs to react etc for his issues. Its very important that I show him good sportsmanship even with the apposing team and clap etc and never ever be nasty or hurl abuse (impressed Ange... ;) lol....) to the oposing team or their supporters.
So all is ok. Im chatting to the lady beside me Blaine not handling a few situations but we chat through it and he calms down and gets on with it. Well there is a mum with 2 kids infront of us. As normal supporters they cheered when their team did something and we did the same when our team did.... All very normal and nothing to concerning, but the kids were looking back every single time we made a move, clapped, cheered, even spoke or ate. This was driving me insane and i wanted to say something but thought no. Anyway this went on the whole game. We get to the end of the 3rd and these kids are still doing it. Not rude, not doing anything but annoying me. Well I lost it. I 1st asked this boy if he could please turn around to watch the game. Well then his sister thought she would get into it and argued back "why should he... he is only looking?" I was not in the mood I tell you.... So the mother looks at me and I say...."we are here to watch the game, you also paid to watch, so please turn around as your starting to upset my son" well its on..... the old lady infront of me pipes up telling me to be nice and he is only a kid. I said politely I am here for a nice night with my son and i dont think its too much for me to ask for them to watch the game rather than us. God listen to me... What a bloody headcase... Im sure its me with issues not Blaine.
We sat and continued to watch and not pay attention but the boy had started crying and i felt like a real bitch. Blaine wanted me to apologise but I was so angry with myself i couldnt. I just would have started another arguement.
So 20 mins into the last quarter I convince Blaine we head to the toilet and leave from there and catch the early train. NO SUCH BLOODY LUCK.
We get to the station and it was a bloody mess. There was an announcement to say 2 Pakenham trains were cancelled. Then we get told there is a train coming. All of a sudden another announcement comes up saying our train is on another platform. so we run over and get it... We get on only to find the platform we were on has another pakky train there too. So there is 2 pakky trains. Well the other train takes off and we sit for 15 mins while the train fills... talk about karma. Well we are finally home and we sat with a huge bunch of people who were lovely but i still feel like crap about this boy.
Now I know 99.9% chance that these people will never read this.... and who am I to kid... half of you wont either....lol

But this is a public apology to that family.

Who ever you are, I am sorry for spoiling your night. You were there for the same reason as us and I am so sorry that I took my mood out on your son. I am sorry I made him cry but it was I thought a small request so we could watch the game without feeling uncomfortable. It was not his fault I had an issue and hope you can forgive me for my bad behaviour.
However, may I sugest that you explain to your children that it is a sport that has 2 teams and poeple like to barrack and cheer for their teams too. Keeping their support going is all that is needed and not to get so upset when others do it too. Again I am sorry. I know I spoilt my night as I am sure I spoilt yours.

Well I am going to go to sleep and hopefully wake up on the right side of the bed in the morning. Thanks for letting me have my rant.

kas85
22-08-2009, 08:35 PM
O man Lorrie, sounds like you've had a shocker. I'll bet you feel lots better today :)

bambaloo-girl
22-08-2009, 09:29 PM
oooh i really feel for you, what a shocker of a day :(

((HUGS))

as you said, hoping the new day brings you some happiness

kirst

*Anthea03*
22-08-2009, 10:54 PM
well good on you for coming on here and saying sorry, even if they dont read it.

Sounds like one of those days where you just want to crawl back into bed.

hope today is a better one for you Lorrie

admin
23-08-2009, 12:24 AM
thanks girls. I still feel like crap but I have slept on it so Im starting to come to terms with it. I believe I had a right to ask, I just think i could have done it with a bit more decorum (SP?) but oh well... its happened and now i need to build a bridge!!!

Jax
23-08-2009, 01:16 AM
I have to say that , l am in total agreeance with you as far as the kids stareing (spl?) the mother should have been watching her children & said that it is not nice to stare at people .... and being in such in a place where you are almost sitting on top of one another doesn't help......i think if l had being having a day like u where l probably would have done the same thing ....people have to learn to respect other people and that only comes from learing it from your parents ( which these days doesn't seem to being taught to the younger generation ) ....this woman needs to understand that people have bad days , l am sure that she also has days the same .....l wouldn't feel too bad , l am sure that kid will learn from this and maybe next time will learn not to stare at people ...

admin
23-08-2009, 01:21 AM
Thanks Jax. you always seem to say the right things to make me feel better and I agree with you. thanks hun... xxx

nmpomeroy
23-08-2009, 01:39 AM
Ahh Lorrie chicky, I would have done the same thing, seriously how hard would it have been for the mother to just tell her kids to sit down.

It's not like you were kicking the crap out of their chairs all night.......:rolleyes:

digi_gal
23-08-2009, 01:48 AM
What a day you have had to deal with Lorrie. I agree with what Jax has said. Hope that today is proving to be a much better day for you. You might just have done that boy a favour by speaking to him and try to make him realise that what he has done in all innocence he believes is not necessarily acceptable behaviour and to be tolerated by others.

We have trouble with Zac and staring. Zac has a tendency to go off in a dreamy vacant kind of miles away stare mode and he often likes to sit and stare at people and we are always telling him not to do it. We try to explain to him that it can be considered offensive and some people will only be too happy to pick a fight with you over it if they so feel inclined. He just can't seem to help it though and doesn't seem to realise he is doing it. Stare at him in return though and he doesn't like it and feels very uneasy and asks you not to stare at him.

angie
23-08-2009, 02:51 AM
You'll probably want to rip my head off for my response:rolleyes:;), however

it wouldn't have mattered who sat in front of you, what they did, how they did it, what train you caught, what Blaine did or didn't do, what the ex was up too, what happened at the supermarket

You were in a bad mood, pure and simple. Acknowledge that when you are in a bad mood you don't behave well, which is exactly what you told us.

Your a lovely person Lorrie, great skills, kind, loving and compassionate. Don't let anger get the better of you chicky. Its not pretty....

love you heaps

Ange

Lynne
23-08-2009, 03:25 AM
Everyone handles situations differently.......the only thing we can do is learn from it.

You can't go back and change it, so reflect on it and learn from it. Maybe even tell Blake how you wished you had handled it.

Sounds like you had a crap day. Glad I didn't ring in the afternoon. I was comming back from SL in Packenham and the thought did cross my mind that I should give you a call and drop in for a cuppa....

phatassphairy
23-08-2009, 04:06 AM
well Lorrie ....when shit happens shit happens ...and i think really why shouldn't you have the right to tell the person whether it be kids, or adults, that their behavior is upsetting you or affecting your space and time ...awareness is the best cure i reckon and it is not like you were waiting in a dark ally to flog the crap out of this kid ..and i think it is a good thing that you had the audacity to speak up for your self ....from my point of view ...you have shown blaine that it is ok to speak up for yourself ...and if the kid wasn't doing the wrong thing or was using kind courteous manners ...then he wouldn't be upset at him self .....maybe the kid need some attention from his family ...or he might just of been having a bad day too and release his build up of emotions so i wouldn't dwell on it Lorrie ......but good on you for venting your apology ...but i don't think you need to apologize for asking some one to stop staring at you

tracy firth
23-08-2009, 08:59 AM
OH Lorrie I hope you feel better getting all that off your chest. I dont think that you did anything wrong by asking the child to please turn around and watch the game if he was making you uncomfortable - and I agree with some of the others that as a parent the mother could have handled the situation better.

j@zzii
23-08-2009, 09:39 AM
lorrie, i dont think u did anything wrong. the mother shouldve, just quietly, taken her son aside and let him know that what he was doing was wrong.

hope u've had a better day today! x

admin
23-08-2009, 09:47 AM
thanks girls.... Ive tried to keep myself busy today to try not to think about it. i even sat in my rocking chair for about a half an hour just looking out the bedroom trying to settle myself down and have started attacking the house, cleaning windows and scrubbing walls.... I do feel better and I cant change what has happened. I guess I tend to feel that if I would teach my child what is classed as manners i expected the same from others. But I should realise that this isnt the case from past experience... anyway... enough of my whinging.... Im sure you've heard enough.... but thank you for your understanding and kind words... I really needed it!!! xxx

Julie H
23-08-2009, 10:41 AM
Glad to read that you're feeling more settled now Lorrie. Yesterday sounded like one full on hectic day and the kid in front was obviously just that final straw. It happens, and you were big enough to put out an apology for it .... personally I don't think you over reacted about the kid turning around so often ..... just seems like a simple request got out of hand. Hoping you had a more calmer relaxing day today.